What are the Facets of our Identity?

Mar 22, 2011

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“You gave me a shock then Marty. I wondered who you were without your hat on”. That was the remark from a work colleague today as my headgear was missing due to removing my pullover. The sun has been streaming through the window.

In the last 18 months or so, my appearance has become slightly eccentric and I like it! I’ve noticed that since I’ve decided to wear a trilby hat almost all of the time and that my beard (dyed blond) has got longer in a somewhat wizard fashion, people notice me more and acknowledge me in the street. I guess it also fits with being a musician and definitely works for networking.

There is much debate about how we present ourselves. Some of this is seen a social etiquette. This particularly amuses me around religion. An acquaintance once told me how he thought people would be so offended that I was wearing my hat in a church building and demanded I remove it. First and foremost, church for me is the people in it, not the building. Secondly, if wearing a hat in church is offensive, where does that put the Archbishop or the Pope!

Seeking to be different in what we wear or how we look allows us to prove we have an identity. Sometimes that means being part of a group and sometimes it is completely individual.

Some of the clients I work with feel they want to hide in the crowd and not be noticed. I wonder if they assume that everyone else is projecting themselves. This of course is not true and paradoxically, wanting to hide is a form of being different from the crowd, so in turn is a form of individuality. Having an identity and being acknowledged in some way proves we are alive. We love to be called by our name.

What are the facets of your identity?

Do you like to be noticed and acknowledged?

What do you do to make this happen?

Is the desire for that a good thing or a bad thing?

Do you think that being a little different has a positive effect upon you, or do you prefer anonymity?

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  • http://www.facebook.com/farfalladreams Lisa Marie Farfalla

    WOOHOO!!! AMEN!!! It is just what I am writing for part 2 on my blog. The enemy will always attack our identity, so we are blinded to who we are in HIM!!! I love what you wrote! Thank you!!!

    • Marty BoneIdol

      Bless you Lisa Marie and welcome to my page. I’ll defo be following you with your take on the subject.

  • Jax

    I suppose it is only human that people want to be acknowledged for one reason or another, and as you say Marty we all do it in our own way.
    It’s interesting on reflection, how some of my facets are contradictory for example part of me is very caring towards others and yet I have a penchant towards self absorbtion at times. Maybe the former is a means of negating the latter.
    Being on FB is in some way a means of looking for acknowledgement and standing out, by being the comedian on the one hand then the social commentator, or the person who wants to help make a difference to people’s lives. I know I fall into these and no doubt other traits, but what I see as me is maybe way off the mark from other people’s view points.

    It would be an interesting exercise to see whether our projected selves correspond to the received image by others…

    • Marty BoneIdol

      Hi Jax.
      You are right. How we perceive ourselves is likely very different to how others perceive us. We only have to record our own voice and hear how different we sound. Thank you for commenting and visiting.

      • Jax

        Too true about the recorded voice bit… I sound like a young child, I hate it !

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1117126806 Sherrie Koretke

    Beautiful post, Marty. I love how you weaved your story of self-expression into a very deep question. I don’t think we are meant to hid into a crowd. Do we all need to be world famous? No. But there is a need for each of us to express who we are and to be recognized and honored for what makes us different. Why else were we all be born with completely different?

    Btw, I like the hat and beard.

    • Marty BoneIdol

      Yes Sherrie. We need acknowledgement to know that we are alive. Imagine how it would be if everybody we encountered ignored us. I sometimes wonder if that is how bad behaviour starts. It is the demand for attention. Thank you for your kind words.

  • http://twitter.com/LeanneChesser Leanne Chesser

    Marty, identity is a deep concept for me. Personally, my ultimate identity is at a deep spiritual level that’s hard to explain in two sentences. I also see identity as my human values and characteristics, which I express outwardly through my appearance or my actions. People’s outward appearance may or may not accurately reflect their inner identity . . . which they may or may not be aware of. I think we’re all at different stages or places of growth and that there are lots of valid opinions about what identity is.

    • Marty BoneIdol

      Thank you Leanne for your insight into outward and inward appearance and identity. That is very valid and gives more to think over. That is some great feedback.