What is your Purpose?
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The use of language is complex to say the least. Stating the obvious, children learn by what they hear and as they get older they learn to understand. Children also learn by copying what they see and hear.
There comes a time in our lives when we feel stuck. We seek answers to aspects of our lives and can at times get lost in the mire of so much influence, or in some cases so much choice.
To continue to develop on an emotional level, there is sometimes a need to break old habits and dispose of what is not useful. We can compare this to nature when growing a tree. In order for it to flourish, grow broad as well as tall and to bear fruit, some careful pruning is needed.
I began this article with the title “What is your purpose?”
Here is how we can change our interpretation of language.
Consider these two statements:
“You did that on purpose!”
“You did that with a purpose”
The meanings are the same, but the emotions in the two are different.
That first statement tends to get used in a negative sense. For me, in generates a vision of 2 siblings having an argument about who has control of a game. One of them becomes frustrated and lashes out or breaks something belonging to the other out of anger and frustration, resulting in the reply “You did that in purpose!”
Consider what you are doing right now.
Are you doing it with a purpose?
Do you have a focus for your life?
When using the word “purpose” it is possible to re-frame it’s use from the negative to the positive. It is a powerful word fueled with emotion and energy.
You have permission to choose which direction you follow when using words fueled with emotion and energy.
I encourage you to choose to consider the words and language you use throughout your day. You might want to catch yourself in what you say or think.
Work out what the emotion is.
Make a note of that emotion.
Is it positive or is it negative?
Do the statements, words, phrases, sentences, language you use drain your emotional (and subsequent physical) energy or do you feel positive, motivated and energised?
Sometimes, anger needs to be expressed. There is a time and place for that. The overall evaluation to consider is “Does my expressed anger help and assist me?” If that anger is expressed and let go, can you then move on and fill the void created with some new, positive and energised thought?
Having an understanding and awareness of the use of language assists us in managing our emotions appropriately. We are entitled to have emotions, so feeling sad, tearful, angry, happy, joyful, ecstatic (you may think of other emotions not listed here) are acceptable. What is useful here is how you use your understanding of the emotion for a clear and useful purpose.
Or, you may choose to consider some simplicity in the matter and observe how children manage their emotions. Well adjusted children express their emotions openly. If they are upset, they are very quickly (with minutes, seconds even) able to move on with a new focus bearing no grudges about what has happened. I have even witnessed evidence of this in vulnerable teenagers that I have worked with when they would fall out and express intention to seriously hurt a peer. I would in some cases encourage the victim to take legal action against the perpetrator, only to discover they would be best friends again in a matter of days!
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