Do you see yourself as someone of significance or do you think that you are alive just by some sort of accident?
These are questions that cause all sorts of debate and argument, particularly with regard to “Religious” debates. I’m not going into that here. I’m just speaking from inspiration that has hot me in recent days in particularly in the last hour.
I strongly feel this is important for you to consider and evaluate!
The fact that we exist is the result of desire and passion. It doesn’t matter which way you look at it or where the energy of MOTIVATION comes from, it IS the result of those to key words. DESIRE and PASSION.
You may have picked up on my thought around this in the video I created the other day. I’ve put this up on the coaching page of my site. click here.
Desire and passion have ENERGY, both physical and emotional.
Now don’t get me wrong. I’m no scientific expert. My words simply come from inspirational thought. It just happened!
The whole point is, are we going to waste the energy that is in us generated from the passion and desire that created us or are we going to make positive use of it?
It seems to be pretty obvious that millions of people choose to waste that energy on worry, stress and giving up on dreams and aspirations. We all have the opportunity to use that fantastic and miraculous energy created for us. It is indeed the ultimate gift in our lives.
Step up to the plate today. Hold your head high with the knowledge of the truth in the energy created for you out of desire. If you hold a spiritual belief, you likely attribute that energy and desire granted by God, or however you have the right to perceive “….”
Humanity is there to help.
To help friends, family, strangers, take care of animals and creatures, look after the environment, explore, gain wisdom, inspire, multiply, love…….. (I’m sure you’ll think of many more.)
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I’ve found a great way to overcome this. It is simple and very time saving. I recommend using text reading software. I’ve tested a product called Natural Reader. The voice produced on it is very easy on the ear. It is also very inexpensive. It saves so much time and effort stops that temptation to skip content, especially when reading an instructional article. You can just close you eyes and listen if you wish. Here is the link. Natural Reader.
The secret to a band working well together is having good friendship with each other. We in Beggars’ Belief have mutual respect for each other, I believe. We can have fun with teasing each other from time to time.
Our electric guitar player, Chris has a really good sense of humour that I always enjoy. He also has an iphone 4. It is something that he really likes and never passes up a moment to share what this great little toy can do. As a result, JJ and I frequently tease him about it.
It so happens I got myself a new phone yesterday “HTC Wildfire” that has Android on it as well as now being able to properly get internet connection. I was telling Chris about this last night and we played the one-upmanship game. I think I lost really because at present the general consensus is that iphone 4 trumps all other phones. We’ll see! (laughing)
Chris said to me “You know your Life Chapters blog. Why don’t you write about Envy?” Teasing me that I’m simply envious of his iphone 4.
Envy is something I believe we all have to a greater or lesser extent. I’d say a little, gentle envy is ok because I believe it is something that drives motivation if we use it in a positive sense. It can of course produce a negative effect that causes stress and possibly even anger. In this sense it can stunt personal growth. Envy can be quite a strong emotion that demands “want” and “must have” that can be linked to selfishness.
If we want something, we have a responsibility to work at achieving it. That requires some action from ourselves. Some of that action may require asking for the help of others. To sit back and demand others to do things for us without taking personal responsibility will result in no movement to self develop. There would then be a danger that we simply get consumed with negativity, focusing on what we haven’t got and being consumed with the envy and jealously of others. This is an aspect of life that I work on with my clients at work. It is one of the element that some people get stuck, resulting in low confidence and low self esteem.
I had a busy day yesterday, so didn’t get time to write a blog.
Steven produced another guided meditation exercise. On a personal level, I found this exercise very powerful. Midway through the exercise I became pretty emotional and tears started to roll down my face. Rather than being an uncomfortable feeling, it was actually incredibly liberating. I felt so much tension move away from me. This particular experience yesterday is a feeling I’ve not had for a long time. The last time this happened was when I do an Alpha course some years ago. It’s the heightened spiritual feeling that in incredibly enlightening. Those tears were actually tears of joy, happiness and a sense of enhanced wisdom. If you have not yet tried this exercise, I highly recommend it. I’ll not reveal the detail of it. I believe this little meditation is a gift. It may not affect you in the way it did for me, but it is a gift all the same, so I encourage you to be open minded and accept it.
Thinking back to that exercise yesterday reminded me of one of my old friends from Yahoo 360 days of blogging. Mitch posted the video below back then. You may have seen it before. In the spirit of giving as we have discussed in previous posts, this is about doing something simple without expecting return. This is the true spirit of humanity if we choose to accept it.
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Do your eyes get really tired from reading as mine do?
Do you have trouble proof reading your own articles and get frustrated when you have missed a grammatical error in your content?
I’ve found a great way to overcome this. It is simple and very time saving. I recommend using text reading software. I’ve tested a product called Natural Reader. The voice produced on it is very easy on the ear. It is also very inexpensive. It saves so much time and effort stops that temptation to skip content, especially when reading an instructional article. You can just close you eyes and listen if you wish. Here is the link. Natural Reader.
I’m looking forward to tomorrow because I will be delivering a training workshop to staff that is intended to help people become motivated. The purpose is also to propagate this motivational energy so that it will snowball to others. So what is motivation and how does it manifest?
Everyone experiences motivation to a greater or lesser degree in their lives. Difficulties occur when our motivation is low. Motivation is clearly linked to our emotions. Positive motivation is driven by our sense of well being and purpose in life.
It is most effective when it comes from the very centre of our individuality and being. If we know who we are and accept that we have value, we will be able to focus on that motivation and be less likely to be distracted by outside influences. I feel certain that famous people that have achieved amazing feats have that knowledge of value in life. A typical person would be Sir Edmund Hillary who conquered Mount Everest.
Having a confident sense of personal value must surely be the key to achieving goals.
So why does our motivation sometimes wane? I think this is because the motivation is driven by some outside influence or source. Being motivated by seeking to prove somebody wrong may seem on the surface all well and good, however, there is a danger in this. When we come up against a challenge along the way, self talk may come in that says:
“Maybe the other person was not wrong about me. I’m going to fail and feel like a fool.”
It is quite possible that the other person will not think you a fool at all. If we are trying to prove someone wrong, then essentially our motivation is to attempt to make a fool out of the other person. Frankly, what purpose does that serve? It certainly has some sort of negative intention on our part.
Maybe the outside influence is to try to impress somebody. If we have personal value and are at peace with ourselves, surely there is no need to impress anyone else. Self value is far more powerful than any feedback that we get from anyone else. Of course, getting positive affirmations is important because they help to build and maintain a sense of personal value.
A few years ago, I became very enthusiastic and motivated by a business I got involved with. My motivation was driven to a certain extent by anger at having lost a job. It was my own sense of being wronged and wanting to prove that I could succeed. I got some limited success, but the driving (negative) energy source soon ran out. It ended with a breakdown of sorts where I felt I had failed. I felt I’d failed those who I love and care about. I felt that others would be disappointed by me and ultimately, I felt I had failed myself. The motivation did not come from my true self. I was even in denial about the fact I did not really believe in the product I was marketing!
When we feel enthusiastic and motivated about something, we can choose to evaluate where it comes from.
How much of it comes from the anticipation of receiving praise?
When we receive praise, are we able to accept it in a genuine and thankful manner that helps to build and maintain our personal and individual sense of value?
I write about this because it is a continued challenge on the journey of self discovery, self acceptance and sense of well being.
Be blessed folks…
Marty
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Do your eyes get really tired from reading as mine do?
Do you have trouble proof reading your own articles and get frustrated when you have missed a grammatical error in your content?
I’ve found a great way to overcome this. It is simple and very time saving. I recommend using text reading software. I’ve tested a product called Natural Reader. The voice produced on it is very easy on the ear. It is also very inexpensive. It saves so much time and effort stops that temptation to skip content, especially when reading an instructional article. You can just close you eyes and listen if you wish. Here is the link. Natural Reader.
I read “Lord of the Rings” many years ago as a teenager and thoroughly enjoyed the escape into a land of fantasy. When I knew Peter Jackson was making the films, I simply couldn’t wait. In fact during a particularly difficult time in my life, knowing these films were due to be released became a simple motivation that helped stop me giving up on life.
My life has turned round in a massive way over the last 12 months. You may think that rather odd, considering my mother passed away in January after a very long illness and a close friend of mine also tragically died in the middle of the year. So how come I’m feeling so good when in theory I’d expect to be full of grief?
Mother passing away was certainly a release for me, but that was just part of enabling me to change. Parts of my life were already starting to turn around just before that event. The difference that occurred is that during start of the improvement for me, I chose to accept the good feeling I experienced at that time and to live for the moment. This was a clear decision that was very much different to past patterns of thinking where I used to look for the coming fall. I’d worry and focus too much upon everything falling apart. Essentially, chose to believe I was not worthy of the goodness.
Having spent a lot of time researching life coaching material recently and having also had an excellent few sessions of therapy a year or so ago, I now understand what influenced my negative patterns of thought.
Much of it comes down to negative feedback I chose to listen to and accept as a child.
You see, we do make a choice to accept or reject what we hear. It affects whether we become motivated, the nature of that motivation and what drives it.
I ask you to consider a statement made to you in your past.
” You always ………..” “You never ………” (enter whatever negative piece of feedback you received). Consider your reaction to the statement.
An example of a statement made to a child or young person. “What are you doing? Why haven’t you done as I asked? You are just lazy and selfish.” The young person chooses how to react to this statement. He/she may choose to accept that accusation in its entirety. This may cause de-motivation and depression. Self talk comes in “I am lazy and selfish. I am a bad person. I am not worthy of love and acceptance.” There may also be anger. This anger may motivate in a negative fashion. ” You think I’m lazy and selfish? I’ll show you how lazy and selfish I can be. I’m going to shock you by proving how much you have underestimated how lazy and selfish I am!” The is a kind of rejection of the accusation made because the person didn’t believe the “lazy, selfish” label put on them, but felt unable to counter this, so chose to become the label, and some! This is likely what causes rebellion in teenagers. The person loses a sense of “self” and becomes something they are not. Self esteem plummets.
Referring back to The Lord of the Rings, we can see this in action. Smeagal finds the ring and chooses to believe the lies it tells him. He becomes who he is not, Gollum. Gollum is consumed with selfishness and carries the burden of the ring. It affects him so badly that even when he loses it, he is unable to find his true self. The ring has enormous power. The greater the power of it’s opposite, the more powerful it will become if it is accepted. Gandalf suspected this when he went to pick up the ring that Bilbo dropped.
From another scene in the film (or book). Smeagal/Gollum is haunted by his negative self talk. “Smeagal. I told you he was tricksy.” Smeagal had begun to re-discover himself, but fell foul of his negative self talk, Gollum.
A way of approaching this problem is by investigating what is really going on when we receive what we perceive to be negative feedback.
Is it true in its entirety? (Unlikely) Is there some element of truth? What do I accept and what can I learn?
I’ll go no further with this because there is much written on the subject that you can read elsewhere. It’s useful to read the perspective of others knowledgeable on this subject. One particular resource I found really interesting is the following link. http://www.trans4mind.com/positive/
I encourage you to read the article on Invalidation. Finally, I ask you whether you carry a “Ring of power” and if it is the burden in your life. If so, resolve to rediscover yourself and cast that ring back into the mountain where is was created. Doing this will grant you the freedom you desire.
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Do your eyes get really tired from reading as mine do?
Do you have trouble proof reading your own articles and get frustrated when you have missed a grammatical error in your content?
I’ve found a great way to overcome this. It is simple and very time saving. I recommend using text reading software. I’ve tested a product called Natural Reader. The voice produced on it is very easy on the ear. It is also very inexpensive. It saves so much time and effort stops that temptation to skip content, especially when reading an instructional article. You can just close you eyes and listen if you wish. Here is the link. Natural Reader.
